It is not your call to prove anybody wrong.
The only person you should be called to prove wrong is the one you see in the mirror. No one else should be able to speak limits into you.
I just caught my self this morning, seeking motivational quotes and inspiration images for sport and entrepreneurship. Among the many nice ones, that I also rebloged on my tumblr, I’ve noticed that many people take proving others wrong as a motivation. Made me want to say a wird or two about it.
Proving others wrong is powerful
Though it can be very dangerous as well! Let us first analyse the word prove. By definition of the free dictionary it means:
To demonstrate the validity or verification of hypothesis ( something you tell to somebody).
Well, first of all it does include minumun 2 person; The person claiming and the person doubting. I want your mind stick with this a little while. What is it that bothers you so much if other people believe or do not believe in what you are saying. Does their believe make your saying more truthful than it is?
Why do we sometimes give up before we even started just because somebody said we will not make it. How do they know that, and why they do it?
2 most common reasons for discouragers:
- Either they love you and want to stop you from brokeness in case of failure.
- Or they are afraid that you will succeed, and that will make them feel less worth. Those are so called haters.
In both cases they are not standing fully behind you. But in the case of loving friends; If your friend sees you sooo excited about something you are planning to do, before they destroy your faith with “you can’t”, they should ask about your strategy, your motivation and your goal. They should ask your through to check if you really thought about it or is it just a silliness coming out of your mouth. In case you did, they will stand next to you. Because even if you fail, that does not make you a looser. And to such friends you do not have to prove anything, they will be your friends even when you fail.
About the second group of discouragers, well, I will not even bother. Seriously forbid your mind to think about their words.
Do things for your hearts sake and set yourself free.
If you really think deep about the thing you plan to do. What is that motivates you do it? Does it have a real value? Something you can bless the people and yourself with it? Or do you do it just because somebody challenged you with “You can’t” ? This is very important. And this is a key to success in life. You are never to do things because somebody challenged you to. You should do it because you want it. Because it burns on your heart to see in come alive. If both are the case, it is even better, you can use that as motivation too, but never as the only one. I have to admit it does feel good proving others wrong, but it shold never be the done for it’s sake. I have seen people catching them selves coming to the goals and realizing it does not complete them, does not feel so good as expected. Why? it is simple, it was never your goal, you were never meant to do it, you did it to prove them wrong. But proving wrong does not allways feel so good. Chasing your dream and accomplishing the things that burn on your heart, does it always.
Prove your motivation for chasing an idea, if it burns on your heart to see it come alive, do it! If you want to do it because of the prove sake you willmost probably waste your time and regret it. We are not here to prove anything to anybody except to yourself. Chase your dream and stick to people who support you even when you fail.